Why
Can’t I Leave
I can’t
believe he loves me but let me tell you so. I can’t leave because no matter
what I know my husband loves me. He says it every day. He not only states it
with words but his physical love hits home. I have learned to be the good wife
and lessen my mistakes. I’ve learned to be the perfect wife when we’re at home
or we’re out on a date. Yes my husband takes me out and we are truly great
together. I hope one day love will make
my husband stay but until then I won’t leave because I love him more than hate.
Yeah, I
must admit the way he says he loves me might make me black and blue but I’m
sure he love me aren’t you. Nothing says
it better than his right hook and that backhand when I am already crying and
can’t stand. He says it so often I can’t believe he doesn’t care. When he comes
home from the bar with the boys and had too many drinks, a bad day at work,
even when dinners late he shows his love straight to my face. After he’s done
he utters I love you and you’re so great but no one will love you better than me. He’s got me wrap in his grasp but I do
believe he loves me don’t you. Now he’s not like this all the time especially
when friends are around he is that charming great looking guy I said I do too. In
my spare time I spend most of my day covering my bruises up with my make-up and
when people ask I’m so use to saying I fell or tripped I don’t know what’s up.
My friends look at me and
scream baby that’s hate but they don’t know him like I do his love is
great. I defend him when they know he’s
the reason why my face is screaming hate. I tell them he does love me I just
make him that way. It’s my fault and beside he says he loves me and he’s truly
is great. He just touched my face too
hard because dinner was late. I forgot he was coming home early and I hesitated
to find the right meal to make. I got tons of excuses that I can make. He loves to hate me but ladies he’s great. He
truly is I can’t believe that I was blessed with this great fate.
My plea, God I know he loves
me my bruises tell me so. Why would he think enough to hurt me if it wasn’t so?
He tells me I look good and I have a heart of gold he tells me don’t look at
another because he can’t control his rage he feel inside his soul. I try to do
my best to compliment us both but he just has this look that breaks my soul. I
know he will be with me until the ends of the earth but God I must admit that
he takes the sane from my soul. I look like hell and yes I want better for
myself but he makes me feel like garbage, and destroys my very worth. Yeah the
garbage I have learned to throw out meal after meal but I can’t let him go. I’m
sorry that I brought this to your door, but I have to find the strength to not
endure his pain that he gives from his hand to my face. God I hope you have a
plan because I’m not strong enough to walk away.
God help me develop the
courage to leave. I know his love hurts sometimes but god oh god it’s just me.
I know I make him mad it’s all me I try so hard but he won’t let me be. He
beats, bruises, curses me with every growing move; however, I groan, cry, but
still he loves me. I’m trying to leave but why oh why can’t I leave. This loves
insane but he’s got me. How can I leave how do I say good-bye? If I watch another
women go through this I would certainly tell her to leave, but I know what
she’s going to say to me. I can’t believe I say he’s right for me when he hurts
me more than you know. I’m ready to leave but I don’t know how. He’s got
everything job, money and the house. I could crash on a friends couch but how
long could I stay. I’m sorry so sorry that this is happening to me and I feel
like I have to stay.
I now know I have to leave
because his love hurts me but, where do I start I can’t face him as I leave.
I’m sorry but I got to do this for me. I know it’s wrong but I never lived on
my own. I just got to make a new start. When he comes to look for me I have to
make sure I don’t go. This is so hard for me because I know my husband love me.
I have to start living for me and knowing that one day I will find someone that
truly loves me. I’m so scared by what my husband has done to me.
If this is your story you do
have to leave. Abuse goes on and when it is in a relationship you never put up
with abuse. I learned one thing in life and love doesn’t hurt. When someone
thinks that hitting you is the best way to show they love you, you need to
leave. Also, understand that if he hits me once he will hit me twice. Don’t
look at what you’re doing as wrong because you are doing nothing wrong. This
isn’t your fault it is his. It is time to leave because no matter what you do
he will always hit you.
If you are too prideful to
talk to a friend about the abuse you are going through then you can use the aid
of the many shelters in your state. You should not feel shameful for what you
are going through the thing you should concentrate on is getting out for you
before it’s too late. As a woman on the outside looking in at your relationship
I’m truly sorry that you went through so much pain but with strength you can
make it through leaving.
By DeAndra Watley